My relationship ended but he keeps texting me even though he doesn't want to get back together. What to do?
I was dating a guy for a year. Half was long distance, the other half he moved in with me. We bumped heads a lot because of the differences we had. Just recently we got into an argument and I put him out in the heat of the argument because of his level of disrespect. The next day I called him and tried to talk to him to come home. Instead he came and picked up the rest of his belongings. He lied to me about where he was going to be staying at, and then the next day told me he was getting his own place. My issue is that he left me in the most complicated situation. He left right before my rent was due, and never even gave me his half for the rent. Even when I told him about him leaving me with his part of the bills, he made an excuses for not being able to pay it.
He texts me once a day to see how I'm doing but that's it. Why does he keep texting me when he knows he isn't coming back? I've been breaking down everyday and he's fine, which blows my mind! Idk how to feel anymore. But I don't want to let him go. I think that we can fix things, but only if he is here with me. I also removed a lot of people from my life because of him. I just don't know how to move on. I don't even know what I like or dislike. I'm just at a weird space.
There are a lot of different methods you can try to alleviate your depression. These are just some ways that are easily accessible to help yourself get better. Always give yourself credit for any progress you make and keep trying your best!
My girlfriend is into eating/fingering my ass which I don't mind but lately she's been wanting to use toys on me such as strap on and such. I'm not into dildos and toys at all. How do I let her know that I'm not into that sort of thing? I've asked friends for advice on this situation and one of them told me I would pretty much be the girl in the relationship and and that's definitely not a role I'd want. Additionally this same friend also told me that if we were to ever break up the gf would go around telling people I like things up my butt, which is also not cool. Any advice would be greatly appreciated Chanel. I hope you've been doing great ☺️ PS feel free to post this if you'd like as I think a lot of guys might have had a kinky gf that is into this sort of stuff but are themselves far removed from engaging in these types of activities yet at the same time feel pressures into doing so.
Life is such a blast! But at times I get really depressed. I always try my best but it goes unnoticed. Especially with my S/O. What can I do to prove myself and also not lose myself?
Dealing with depression is difficult and I'm glad that you're always trying your best! Keep trying to be the best version of yourself that you can be. If you feel that you are really trying your best and it goes unnoticed, then maybe the people who don't notice your progress aren't really as sympathetic/empathetic as you would like them to be. So you have to make a decision. Can you really go on trying to constantly prove yourself to them when it generally doesn't matter to them? Or do you just be yourself and make progress the best way you can and maybe distance yourself from these people and only focus on the ones who really care.
When it comes to your significant other, it is important to not lose yourself over them. At the end of the day, the person who has your back the most and knows you the best is yourself so always put yourself first. What's best for you to ensure the most success. A significant other should always be mindful of their partner's issues. A relationship should include being caring and beneficial to each other on an emotional/ mental level. If your partner can't be there for you and if they can't be encouraging when you feel you've been doing better, then that partner may not be what's best for you.
*Always remind yourself there are people who are willing to ensure your depression isn't faced alone. Be around more of those people.*
The dad of the children I babysit has been saying sexual things lately and I’m not sure if I’m crazy. I wanna quit, but I need the money. What do I do?
Unfortunately this is a scenario that comes up often. There's a couple ways to approach this situation. If you haven't already done so, communicate to him that you feel uncomfortable when he says those things because they are not appropriate and this a professional relationship. Even threaten to leave if he doesn't stop. If you have communicated you're uncomfortable and he still hasn't stopped then it may mean it's time for a different job. You may feel uneasy about switching jobs because you're used to this one or the pay may be good or any other factors that make it hard for you to quit, but there a lot of jobs out there, especially with nannying or babysitting. If the mother is around, you can try telling her too. I know this can be difficult so that's why I don't suggest it first. Websites like Care.com or even Indeed.com will have opportunities available. It's not worth being at a job that makes you uncomfortable, especially when it comes to sexual comments/ harassment! Overall, don't be afraid to explore other options.
Back in January my girlfriend of 4 years whom I currently live with, went through my phone and saw texts between me and a coworker I had been developing feelings for. This coworker knew from the beginning that I had a girlfriend but that didn’t stop her from mutually flirting with me, going out for food after work, and occasionally touching me inappropriately, we would even talk on the phone after work until we both got home. Since January when everything was uncovered we haven’t had much contact, I deleted her on all social medias, and her number is deleted from my phone, my issue is I’ve been having strong urges to speak to her, I miss what we had, but I know it’s wrong and I can’t have that, but the desires within make things hard and sometimes randomly put me in moods if I think about it too much. She no longer works at my job location, she’s gotten a promotion and is working at a different location, so we’ve gone from seeing each other every day to seeing each other maybe once a month. It seems the more I don’t see her the more I want to see her. I don’t want it to hinder my relationship too much although it’s already done it’s damage, but we’ve been perfect lately so I wanna get these thoughts out of my head. How do I move on from this?