What’s your opinion on how old somebody should be the first time they smoke marijuana? And how can I be more open about weed to a family that looks down on weed?
My personal opinion is that 18 years old is a good age. Your brain is still developing but you are an adult at that point. I'm all for CBD being used at any age because there's so many benefits with it. But as far as THC, prior to adulthood could affect your brain negatively. And all the die hard stoners are going to deny marijuana can have negative effects, but it can. So if you're under 18, I would recommend trying more CBD products instead, only because it minimize any negative longterm effects.
As far as being more open to your family, I would say if you can prove that marijuana isn't affecting you negatively and that you're still taking care of the things you need to, it would help them get rid of those negative judgements. Show them the medical benefits if you smoke it for medical/mental health reasons. Use articles that are well researched with good sources, not opinion pieces. Also remind them that marijuana is nowhere near as harmful as tobacco, alcohol, pills, and hard drugs (again use good articles). Maybe even get them some CBD products they can use to ease them into changing their opinion (since they won't get high off of it). Be more open about how it helps you and why you use it. Hopefully this can help change their opinion.
I had a best friend that I grew up with that completely cut me off. We were always there for each other, then she ghosted. I just want to know why. I've contacted her but she never responds. How do I move on?
I had a best friend that I grew up with that completely cut me off. We were always there for each other, then she ghosted. I just want to know why. I've contacted her but she doesn't seem to care. She knows I'm depressed, she never responds. It hurts and I guess I can move on. It's just bothering me that she won't give me an explanation. We were so close. I just really need closure. This is worse than a bad break up. How do I move on?
I don’t know how to tell my best friend I smoke weed. She’s really against it and actually hates the idea of it and I’m scared I’ll lose her. What do I do? Keep it secret or tell her?
Well I think you should be honest with her because she would probably get more upset if she found out you hid it from her. Weed has a lot of positive benefits and maybe if you explain why you do it and how it helps you, she'll be more understanding. Think about why she's against it. Maybe she thinks you'd become the negative stereotype associated with weed (lazy, unmotivated, can't do anything unless you're high, etc). Maybe she's scared you'll change or hang out with her less because you two don't have that in common. Maybe she's had negative experiences with people who did use weed. But if you show her you're still the same person and smoking weed isn't negatively impacting you or your friendship with her, she might come around and accept that about you. You also don't have to smoke around her and if you're not pressuring her to smoke too then it shouldn't be a big enough problem that she wouldn't get over it. At the end of the day, you should be open and honest with her and she should do the same in return. Hope this helps!
This is a serious problem. I masturbate at least 3 times a day, everyday. I'm 44, married (unhappily), and have a young son. What can I do to stop being so damn horny all the time?
So here’s my problem. I have a dream that I want to chase but I’m afraid of what my girlfriend would think of me for chasing said dream. I want to create music and help others create music (I love music), this is the only thing in my life I’m genuinely passionate about and I feel I have a good ear. Despite having a passion for it I’ve been hiding the fact that I would like to get into this myself, and yes I know it’s a long shot for anyone but I do honestly enjoy sharing my thoughts and getting things off of my chest. I’ve even discussed this dream among various friends with no problem, I’d like her to be there and support me, I don’t know how she’d take this news of me wanting to do this but it’s been eating me up, I have this fear that she’ll look at me negatively like I'm just like everyone else. It scares me to think that I might miss on even giving this a shot just because I’m fearing the failure and the disappointment in her eyes, I can’t take that. I feel the anxiety just from typing this right now, What should I do? How should I go about this?
I can’t get out of bed in the morning. I don’t want to go to work. I snap at everyone over small things. I’m tired and I don’t know what to do. I just want to be happy but it seems impossible at this point. I don’t feel loved at all. How can I get better?
There’s this guy that dated my friend for a short amount of time. He was too fucked up to drive home so I was a good samaritan and drove him to his apartment. When I had told her about it she had been ballistic. I had feelings for this guy before but I thought I could just ignore it but I’ve been failing. I’m going to his apartment on Friday and I don’t know if I should cancel or go. I don’t know if I should tell my friend or leave it at this point and see what happens.
Me and my ex, who I've been with since my sophomore year of HS, broke up for good at the start of 2018. I was doing really good getting over him. I met a new guy at the end of May and was feeling really good about things. Then I started peeping that this guy talked about his ex a lot and that kinda hit my confidence. I brought it up to him and told him that I don’t even think about my ex anymore since being with him, to which he replied “I don’t think about mine either, at least not when me and you are together. Maybe after you go home but not when we’re together”. I appreciate the honesty but seriously wtf. So now it gets complicated. I started forcing myself to think about my ex so I wouldn’t feel more for my new man than he does for me and I thought myself into a whole depression. I think about my ex all day every day. I saw him a couple days ago and now I’m questioning my whole new relationship bc I want my old one back even though I know that will never happen. Am I going crazy? I feel like my new relationship won’t progress because I’m scared that my new man is still caught up on his ex. Not to mention she’s beautiful and short (I think he has a preference for short girls) and I’m already self conscious about my height (5’7) so it’s definitely not a good feeling. He’s mentioned my height once or twice too, nothing negative but just pointing it out to me as if I don’t already know. Does it sound like he’s not really interested? Should I just cut him off and try to start over with my ex? Or am I just being extra by forcing myself to think about my ex?
I got out of a 3.5 year relationship a little bit ago. I can only remember the good and my friends constantly remind me how miserable I was. I don’t understand how I can only seem to think about the good and I constantly miss him when I was miserable
Well there's different reasons as to why you're going through this.
First, it was a long term relationship so he was in a good portion of your life. It can be hard getting used to the fact that you aren't with him anymore. Adjusting does take some time but keep in mind the end goal is to move on from him because you know he isn't good for you. You were a person before you met him. You can still be a person after him.
What if I don’t know if I have a mental illness or not? My family & friends speculate I do. I guess my quality of life is good enough to where I don’t want to find out if I do or don’t.
In this situation, I would talk it out with the family and friends who speculate you have a mental illness and ask them why they think you do. What symptoms are they seeing? Sometimes we don't realize our own behaviors because in our heads this is just how we are and it's normal to us. Do you feel like anything is affecting your life negatively to the point it's messing with how you function at work, at home, at school, etc? Do you feel you have any consistent symptoms? You don't always have to put a label on things if you don't want to. But if you think it's a possibility that it could affect you negatively, if it's not already talk to a doctor and if they think you need it, they'll refer you to a psychologist/psychiatrist. You don't have to make any commitments yet. Just explore your options and try to learn more about yourself.