We all know our thoughts and beliefs can sometimes negatively impact us and lead to our self sabotage. This post is to talk about common thought processes that we engage in and how we can work to change it. As you're reading through this, try to point out which types of cognitive distortions you engage in most of often so you can be more aware of how you need to restructure your thinking. Cognitive behavior therapy focuses on these concepts.
According to the CDC, Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) can be defined as violence or aggression in a relationship. This includes physical, sexual and emotional/psychological abuse. It also includes stalking. The reason I'm talking about this is because a lot of people have experienced IPV, whether it was through their own experience with a partner or watching their parents go through it in their relationships/marriages. It's something that shocked me when I saw the statistics of how common it was. Literally millions of people are affected by IPV. As a matter of fact, 20 people per minute are dealing with some form abuse in relationships right now. According to U.S. crime data, 1 in 6 homicides are victims killed by an intimate partner.
Below is a table showing the amount of men and women who experienced violence in their relationships at some point in their lifetime.
A lot of us have grown up and started to realize how our past can cause trauma that alters us deeply. It could be things like dealing with abuse, trying to heal from toxic people, seeing the death of a loved one, or so many other situations. I know that everyone dealing with trauma has had different experiences, but hopefully at least some of these tips can help:
Sometimes it can be difficult boosting your confidence and maintaining high self esteem. We fixate on our failures or feel like we're behind everyone else. Sometimes no matter how much you accomplish, you still feel like you're not doing enough. Here's how to give yourself a boost of esteem and become more confident:
It can be hard trying to support someone who has a mental illness. Oftentimes you may not know how to help or what to do but here are some things that you can try that can make a big difference in your life and theirs:
Bipolar is a mental disorder that results in both manic and depressive phrases that last for weeks or months at a time. It is not having quick attitude changes within seconds, like social media portrays it. For more information on symptoms visit: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/bipolar-disorder/index.shtml.
Here are some tips on how to cope with being bipolar:
So something that is happening a lot on social media is things being labeled as toxic. I'm glad we are being more aware of toxic behaviors and people but I think some people are confusing toxic behaviors with things they just don't like. Just because you don't agree with someone's actions or words doesn't always make them toxic. Toxic behaviors are harmful, not just something you disagree with.
Here is an outline of common toxic traits:
Anxiety can be a difficult thing to deal with. Sometimes it's hard to block out intrusive thoughts or stop worrying about the unknown. Sometimes there's always a feeling of panic that's hard to get rid of. Here some strategies to help you out:
Battling a mental illness is a lot like going to battle in a war. A lot of things we need to effectively win a war are the same things we need to fight mental illnesses. Here are some ways to make your battle easier:
Sometimes when we enter relationships, we may lose sight of who we are because we invest so much into our partner. We can neglect to invest in ourselves and we forget who are in a sense. Once the relationship ends, it can be difficult to move forward and reestablish our own identity but here are some ways that could help, starting with the basics: