According to the CDC, Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) can be defined as violence or aggression in a relationship. This includes physical, sexual and emotional/psychological abuse. It also includes stalking. The reason I'm talking about this is because a lot of people have experienced IPV, whether it was through their own experience with a partner or watching their parents go through it in their relationships/marriages. It's something that shocked me when I saw the statistics of how common it was. Literally millions of people are affected by IPV. As a matter of fact, 20 people per minute are dealing with some form abuse in relationships right now. According to U.S. crime data, 1 in 6 homicides are victims killed by an intimate partner.
Below is a table showing the amount of men and women who experienced violence in their relationships at some point in their lifetime.
I decided to do an experiment and make a poll to compare how many people have and haven't gotten checked for STD's since the beginning of 2018. Here are the results:
If we factor out the people who haven't had unprotected sex this year, 40 people haven't checked for STD's out of 97. Imagine being in a room of almost 100 people at one of those speed dating events and a little under half of those people haven't checked for STD's recently. That puts you at a high risk of contracting one if you decided to have unprotected sex with someone. But this is just a Twitter poll with only 125 participants. Let's get to the real stats.
It can be hard trying to support someone who has a mental illness. Oftentimes you may not know how to help or what to do but here are some things that you can try that can make a big difference in your life and theirs:
So something that is happening a lot on social media is things being labeled as toxic. I'm glad we are being more aware of toxic behaviors and people but I think some people are confusing toxic behaviors with things they just don't like. Just because you don't agree with someone's actions or words doesn't always make them toxic. Toxic behaviors are harmful, not just something you disagree with.
Here is an outline of common toxic traits:
Sometimes when we enter relationships, we may lose sight of who we are because we invest so much into our partner. We can neglect to invest in ourselves and we forget who are in a sense. Once the relationship ends, it can be difficult to move forward and reestablish our own identity but here are some ways that could help, starting with the basics:
A lot of times we come across friendships or relationships where we're putting in way more effort than the other person. Sometimes we blame ourselves and think we may not be good enough for the other person. Sometimes we give them the benefit of the doubt and hope they will come around eventually. Unfortunately, a lot of times that's not the case: