A lot of people struggle with change, whether it's internally or externally. The thought of change can bring discomfort and fear of the unknown. It's even rooted in us that change is bad. For example, "you've changed" has a negative connotation in most cases. We hear it in songs where artists claim they've never changed up or talk down on people who have. We're almost conditioned to think that changing means being "fake."
We can all agree that life is always changing and a lot of it isn't in our control. Wouldn't it make sense that we should also be changing to keep up? If we stay the same, then there's no growth. We are SUPPOSED to change. We are human and the world is so big and filled with experiences and opportunities. All these things contribute to us learning and becoming better people. If you try to avoid change as much as possible, you're avoiding creating a better life for yourself. If you're having a lot of negative experiences due to the way you're doing things, it means you need to change if you want more positive experiences.
Sometimes we have our own toxic traits that affect our relationships with our family, friends, partners, coworkers, etc. Maybe we learned them from our environment or maybe we just took on those traits because of the phases in life we were at. Toxic traits don't just mean how you treat other people; you can be toxic to your own self. Sometimes we hang on to these toxic traits because we think we're protecting ourselves but we're actually harming ourselves without even realizing the damage that's being done. Sometimes we need to change certain aspects of ourselves to treat the people around us and ourselves better. Let go of feelings of bitterness, anger, jealousy, resentment, pettiness, "heartlessness", etc. All these things just bring you down and hold you back. I know it seems easier to have negative feelings instead of positive because life is difficult but you need to change that mindset. Positive thoughts and feelings will put your foot in the door for more positive outcomes.
Sometimes we have our own passions, projects, and goals that we want to be successful in. It can be hard gaining the support and the resources to do so. Getting to where you want to be can seem like a never ending, incredibly slow process. If that's something you're going through right now, it means you need to change how you're going about it. Maybe you need to change how you portray yourself. Maybe you need to change who you're around or change directions. Maybe you need to change your goals completely because those goals don't serve you anymore. One thing is for sure, if you've been doing things the same and there hasn't much progress, it definitely wouldn't hurt to change your plan of action.
Changing your environment (home, job, school, etc) can be scary because you don't know what to expect but it could also bring in new opportunities and new people who can help you. It forces you to learn how to adapt and learn new things. You see things from yet another perspective. You learn how to live or work differently and that just makes you more versatile.
Lastly, changing who we keep in our lives is important because so much of being human comes from our interpersonal relationships. Do you have friends or a significant other who don't make you feel good? Maybe you've dropped some of the bad people in your life but you still go after new people with the same traits and it just causes repetition of previous experiences? You need to tell yourself that just because you get some kind of comfort from having these people or personality traits in your life, it doesn't mean it's good for you. Comfort doesn't equal benefits. Change who you're attracted to (romantically or platonic) by only accepting what is good for you. Keyword here is mutual. If you're going to allow someone in your life, make sure they're benefiting you as much as you benefit them. Don't be in denial about it either. Open your eyes and see a person for what they are and what they continuously show you, instead of just what you want them to be. And if you guys aren't benefiting each other at all, then why does this relationship exist?
In conclusion, people might be hesitant to change because they think that changing isn't being true to themselves. However, the truth is: you're not being true to yourself if you don't change, because sticking to the same old things is really limiting your growth and potential. Someone (supposedly Albert Einstein) once said "The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again, but expecting different results." So weigh your options out, doing what's in your means, and make those changes so you can start living a better life.