So I'm going to just start this post off by saying that the way a lot of people view exes is toxic. It's no surprise to me why so many people still allow their ex to be a huge trigger in their lives, especially when the relationship has been over for quite some time. Now I'm not saying that I've handled past breakups perfectly, but I definitely avoided the following things that I feel like other people should too.
1. If you're still talking badly about your ex, it means you still care. Yes, exes can be horrible but constantly telling social media how much your ex wasn't shit is only fueling your fire. By constantly repeating how terrible they were, you're not giving yourself a chance to learn the lessons of why your relationship didn't work. What faults did you have that you need to work on internally? If your ex was awful, what attracted you to them in the first place so you don't fall for a similar type again? Instead of constant shit talking, take some time to reflect so mistakes aren't repeated again. Then you can give yourself a chance to accept what happened so you can move forward.