We are a generation of more awareness, more education, more information, more access, and more platforms. That's why it's more important than ever to break cycles that have proven to be harmful.
It can be a generational cycle. Maybe your parents were abusive. Maybe your parents didn't allow you to communicate your side. Maybe your parents made you grow up too fast by giving you so much responsibility and/or exposing you to things too early. Whatever it is, you don't have to be that way towards your kids. Let your kids communicate, let them be themselves, show them love and compassion instead of fear and violence. Learn to discipline them in ways that won't have negative longterm effects on them. Be the parent you wanted your parents to be when you were going through a tough time as a kid. If your parents ever made you feel super awful, remember that and don't repeat their same mistakes with your kids. Break the cycle.
It can be a cycle within yourself. You're repeating the same mistakes, going after the same types of people who aren't good for you, holding onto negative things instead of positive things, continuous self doubt, blaming other factors instead of holding yourself accountable, etc. You are capable of breaking that cycle too. Learn from your mistakes. Actually try to apply the lessons learned from your past experiences. Dig deep inside yourself to understand your why you behave the way you do. If you ever need help with this, feel free to email me or dm me on twitter/instagram. Look for patterns and try to break those habits. Always remind yourself that you're in charge of your life and no one else. Set standards for yourself and actually stick to them. Pay attention to people's actions more than their words. Don't invest more into people than they invest in you. Seek therapy and other forms of support through loved ones. Have healthy coping strategies. As I said, hold yourself accountable. If you want more insight on how to hold yourself accountable, you can look at this older post I made here. Break the cycle.
It can even be cycles in society. Don't be racist or prejudiced. Don't be sexist, homophobic, transphobic, etc. Learn to respect other people's boundaries. Don't protect people who are known to be guilty of sexual abuse just because they are family or a friend. Listen to people when they talk about their trauma instead of brushing them off as liars. Stay away from hard drugs that could ruin your life and the lives of people who care about you. Be a good person as often as you can. If you have talents, get more involved in your community to help other people. Be honest more. Don't be afraid to speak up because you think you can't make a change. Always look for the truth, instead of repeating things you see just because it sounds good to you. There's so much you can do differently to break these cycles that we see repeating themselves since as long as we can remember.
Each generation is responsible for the generations after it. We are too smart and too capable to be teaching and repeating bad behaviors STILL. Let's make a difference in ourselves, in our families, and in our society in general. BREAK THE CYCLE and start new, healthier, more efficient cycles.