So everyday I come across people who say no one checks on them, whether it's in person or on social media. No one asks how they're doing, no one recognizes they're going through a hard time, no one cares, etc.
Why do people have to check in on you when they're probably busy themselves and no one is checking on them either? Why does it have to be someone has to check in on you, instead of you just choosing someone to talk to and being honest about what's going on in your life? We are all busy and we are all going through things, not to downplay what's going on in your life but you can reach out for help and support too, you know.
A lot of people do have friends who will ask what's wrong but they choose to ignore these people or just not speak about it and say "nothing is wrong." Now what? Someone asked what was wrong, more than likely they asked more than once, yet you chose not to be responsive and communicate what's going on. I know things are hard to talk about but again, you cannot expect people to keep attempting to get through to you when you make it difficult for them to.
To say nobody cares about you is ridiculous. Most of the time people fixate on the people they want to care instead of the people who already do care. Stop trying to get people who don't have your best interest at heart to give a shit about you. There are over 7 billion people on this planet. If it is honestly truly the case that nobody in your personal life cares about you, then you can make friends online or get a therapist who will care about you and listen to you, then go from there. It's sometimes hard to find therapy that's affordable but it can be done. You just need to research your options and what treatment plan you can afford.
Have you ever reflected on yourself? Most of the time, people who think everyone else is a bad friend is a bad friend themselves. Maybe you need to work on your communication skills, or stop isolating yourself and pushing people away, or maybe how you treat others in general needs to be changed. Maybe people aren't there for you because you weren't there for them. Whatever it is, if you really think NO ONE is a good friend that's usually a sign that it has more to do with you than with them. It's a hard pill to swallow but you need to swallow it.
We need to focus on open communication with people we can trust or people who can make us feel better, instead of focusing on this idea that people are supposed to go out of their way for you at all times to check on you. Chances are you don't check on people either. If you do and they don't reciprocate, then stop being their friend and focus on people who like you and care about your life. Take accountability when it comes to seeking support. Just say it. "Hey, I'm going through something and need to talk about it with you. Here's what's going on:..."
In conclusion, people do care and people do want to help or be a listening ear but it's on you to communicate what's going on so that you can get that. Stop expecting people to check in on you and just talk about it with someone who CARES, not someone you know isn't really emotionally available and you just keep lying to yourself because you're stuck on getting support from them for whatever reason. And how some people treat you isn't a reflection of how everyone will treat you. Place people in your life who have you best interest at heart.